Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Treat me with___________________________

The old adage goes, 'treat others the way you want to be treated'.    Can't stand a co-worker, family member, or someone you used to feel close to there is always a better solution to the situation than treating them like dirt. The truest thing in all this is that being treated badly only leaves a bad taste for all involved.  You're irritated and they're agitated all which won't lead to a happy ever after or resolution.  The reason movies more commonly end with resolved endings (A.K.A. Happy Endings) is it's the preferred option.  Knowing this also reminds us that there is no fun in hating or disliking people in fact it's more often taxing (takes up way too much time and energy).  So how do you resolve what probably took years, months, weeks, or even days to build to what it became.  As addicts of quick fixes let me assure you that the quick fix is not permanent but the long road is.  After all it took time to get where you are now expect that it will take some more time and effort to leave either worse off or better off. The ultimate choice of how ones life stays or becomes is whose? Yours of course! You chose to forgive, eat your words, not be irritated, view things differently, not let it be all about you, you can change you and you alone.  Never get too busy motivating, convincing, manipulating, wishing, insinuating, envisioning, hoping, wanting, intending for someone else to change, be different, act differently, understand, or be understanding. Instead use your energy wisely, use it on you.  Learn what it is about this person that you really have a problem with and why. Then take a mirror to yourself.  Realize what part you play in all of this (If you can't admit your fault honestly don't bother yourself , just keep hating them and the situation.). Then attempt to make a change cause obviously one is needed and since you are the only being you have full control of, make your change count for something.

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