Are you being Lead to slaughter?

I'm in a panic! I keep thinking I'm so not going to make it.

Why not? Well I have a broken support system. I've been trusting people who clearly have issues of their own that even I see solutions to.

" If you can't see that I have it together in the ways you want it together and my faults aren't faults that are warranted, then why do you trust me?"

Sometimes we are simply lost and in a flux so much so that people whom we'd never trust to hold our hands through a storm get to.

All I'm saying is don't get caught up in the thoughts that become your reality in the mist of fear and anxiety. Cause the choices one makes during those crucial moments often determine your success rate.

         Imagine a calm and peaceful sea                 

                             

Calm waters

   Vs. 

                                  

Choppy Waters

                

  

 Anxiety and fear can never be the peaceful sea. So if you want peace of mind. Start my calming down long enough to step out of your situation and to realistically look at it from a far. Kind of like google earth.(A satellite view of the world that can be zoomed in or out). When you finish telling yourself the truth of your situation do yourself a favor and don't judge yourself.  Just figure out step one. Cause there will be more steps after that. If your still busy shaming and blaming you'll probably never make it to your first step before you fall back into the anxiety and fear that are eager to welcome you back.

Also the blame game is just that a game. So don't waste your time with it cause guess what you can't do if you're busy playing it. Yep you guessed it, take a step.

"FAILURE IS NOTHING, OTHER THAN AN ATTEMPT THAT DIDN'T WORK OUT"

It's not an excuse to give up or stop trying.

So I hope you don't make friends with Fear or Anxiety cause they sure aren't worth your while.

The follies of Childish money

You learn how to eat, to be respectful, and the basic how to's of life as a child. So then why shouldn't it be the same way for money. Why are parents so scared of teaching their children about money management and the uses of it as a child.

If you haven't noticed yet there is a direct correlation between poverty and the lack of understanding of how to use money. Money well spent and the spending of money are valuable childhood and not adulthood lessons. Yet too many parents leave the money lessons even they've learned for the world to teach their own children. Do you not want your children to succeed in life or even to at least have a handle on their finances?

 “Bend like the grass that you may not break”, says Nathan in Nectar in a Sieve, by Kamala Markandaya

The joy of a parent is that you should want for your children to be better than you. What better way than to keep them from repeating your financial mistakes than by teaching them right from your not to do financial playbook as a child. Right off the bat. Cause guess what becomes not just a habit but a way of life, the things you learned to do as a child. They in some cases become automatic, things you can't avoid doing or feel strange stopping, traditions.

I know you have financial behaviors you wished you displayed as a child or that your parents encouraged you to do as a child. Why not teach or do for your own kids these things.

If you want some of the resources I've found or suggestions comment or inbox me. I never mind helping, cause someone helps me when I need help, exactly what I hope you will do for your children.

Get connected cause it might just save your life.

It's one thing to know a bunch of people, but its something entirely different to stay connected. Actually knowing what's going on in their lives and contributing to making a difference. A community is something to be held, but a connected and supportively vibrant community full of connections and positive continuous interactions is awesome (priceless). 

I'm coming to see that there are two prominent factors to this. The first being, not knowing where to being and the latter being not thinking that your input or attempts to reach out matter. We matter! Your voice, touch, and attempts to care matter. Don't let fear or rejection make you feel small or of no value. You are valuable as is your input on the lives of others. Don't get lost in you but get found in your relationships with others and your understanding of your unique value. Don't forget to be you. 

As for the beginning. All you need is to step, you've always known how. You probably just spent way too much mental time doubting that it was the right thing. Though if you ask me even if it's a wrong move a move is a move. Sometimes in wrong we find right but you have to first be willing to try.

Walk, pull, walk, adjust, repeat

You get to a certain age where certain things are not cute anymore. When age becomes visible wisdom.( Please note, just as common sense isn't common, nor is this.)

What I'm referring to is when a woman outgrows certain types of clothing and physical expressions of self. A great example of this is clothes that need constant adjustment because the woman wearing it feels she might accidentally expose too much. Then there's the phase where everything should be tight, cause you just have to flaunt everything and some more; as if a man couldn't still see it when it's all covered up.

   'Trust me they know what you got naked or covered to the nines like a Nun, they know!'

I feel that eventually a woman knows what's a waste of time and priorities change. Sex may sell but are you selling it?

Who is the real stubborn goat in this equation?

You can predict you, control you, and work on you but in others none of these are true often, frequently, or hardly ever. So what do you do when someone left fields you, totally hits you at an angle you never saw them coming from. What happens when you've tried everything to help them see that they need to change and still nothing has come of all your efforts.

You change!

You change because only you can change you. You can motivate, inspire, and be an example to others but in the end the only thing you ever really change is you. So don't give up but give in to who you will need to be to overcome this obstacle or to stop being bothered by someone else's inability to change.