The Right Kind of Wrong.

So I watched this movie, 'The Right Kind of Wrong.'-it's on Netflix.
So as fun as this movie is to watch for someone like me who loved the real story in the back as much as the technology hard to miss forefront story.

My point of talking about this movie is the thing it sparked or more like brought to the forefront of my attention.

I recently got a second chance at something I so comfortably threw away but now know that I was short a few marbles in my younger years. So. I fell in love but wasn't expecting to and frankly found it a bit inconveniencing as it didn't fit into my best laid plans at the time. As any seasoned planner knows- 'Man Plans and God laughs'. So when I couldn't see how this great guy could fit into what I had planned, I made it clear to him. Despite his adamant requests for me to reconsider and for us to at least stay friends. I ended it one beautiful day by simply telling him, 'If you love something you have to let it go, and if it comes back then you know it's yours.' Who knew I would come back. He sure didn't, so much so, he even tried to move on.

No but what this movie did for me was help me put in perspective is, that there are wrong people for us. There just are. No matter how good they looked at the start. As the movie put it best, 'We are all wrong for someone...'

So know that we are right for someone.

Hesitation

Hesitation is to me that moment that I pause. It's not the actual waiting second that either leads to procrastination or action. No, it's that clean unadulterated moment you come upon an idea. Way before you let the world or even you taint it. It's the purest most genuine moment of the idea. Even before you think of what the idea will cost you or it's value. It's the love at first sight actual sight moment. Could you just imagine the picture opportunities, if you could take a mental shot of the visual of what your mind was actually seeing in that hesitation moment. I just imagine this breathtaking awe inspiring view of greatness. Then the moment after is to me much like that moment when the last Israelite steps out of the Red Sea and the water begins to crash back in on itself. (-Please note this is all a mental play on image and mental magnitude.) For the mind is far more powerful than we give it credit. Take a moment the next time you have an idea to just savor the moment of purity that is the idea undisturbed, just before even you begin to hack at it. Why, because you'll find that you might just respect and appreciate the most simplest but valuable gift to man. The ability to birth a dream.

My Dream of how I think things should be.

Experience teaches us what we just don't KNOW!!!'- Soki Emmanuel Dokubo
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If any of us knew everything then ooh wee, we'd be King in the Land of the One eyed blind. Just simply saying it would be the golden key of all keys.


Your story is your experience and what it holds is great. The stories of people become history. The secrets to ones success is in your story.

The Dreamer vs. The Realist

Now don't get me wrong I'm definitely not one to condone the absence of dreaming or being a dreamer. It's just someone I know well kept accusing me of being a Dreamer. I at the time assumed it to be an insult.

In life you have to dream to get somewhere. The idea usually comes before the act. Dreaming is the idea of what could be that is essential to feeling the sense of accomplishment that comes hand in hand with having achieved a goal (a.k.a success).

Now as nice as all of that is, the truth is, 'actions speak louder than words'. So a dream without action = dead hope. Also known as the field of dreams, where dreams go to die. If you never act on or follow through on an idea it will always be just that, a dream. A dreamer is someone who only dreams. When you act on your dreams the realities of your limitations and true situation become clear then guess who just found reality.

Now none of these is new ( at least to me). What has been changing but recently became clear to me is the massive importance of slow and many actions versus rigidly sticking to the vision.  No doubt the goal is to accomplish the vision ( the Grand Puba- aka The Big Idea- your Dream). Though if you've never succeeded or haven't even started yet don't hurt yourself, just know that you have to start taking step. The speed is never the point. Just that you are moving and looking for holes or ways to sidestep walls you find in the way.

The part where reality vs. the Dream comes to play is when you are so focused on the dream you aren't seeing that you are limiting your progress and closing the door to opportunities that are advantageous and beneficial. What haven't you done or what aren't you doing to make it happen. What could you be doing that you aren't. Gut wrenching and honest assessment the use of which is the difference between Dreamer and Realist. Though a gut wrenching that wasn't implemented still makes for a Dreamer(me).

There's no running from heart breaks.

If you live in this world long enough. Someone is bound to break your heart. Step on it or just flat out disappoint you. At which point you will without fail experience pain. The kind of pain that, even though it had nothing to do with you hurting any part of your body, you'll ache physically. Running from the pain or attempts to avoid feeling the full force should be cautioned against. Pain has a place and purpose in everyones life. Having pain of an emotional nature should never be something you fear. It should be something you embrace.

'I haven't gone mad!' 

I've learned that positive things can emerge from what can be considered a negative. Plus if you don't let yourself get a chance to feel, realize, and get over the pain it will be there still. It might not be visible to others but it won't heal. A wound only heals with time and care.