They say, 'show me your friends and I'll show you who you are.' I had the pleasure of observing toddlers who really are great example of what a friendship really looks like from outside-the real picture. These toddlers had their days. Some days it was all about support- T would hang out at D's crib when he saw him struggling with being there. He'd bring him toys and sit there and place his hand on the mesh of the cot for D to touch and know he was there. Then there were the other days. T would grab toys out of D's hand and beat back if D tried to get his toy back or retaliate. These are just picks of what I saw but even in just those two you can see that being a friend unfortunately has a good and bad. Though in the end those attempts to be there are the ones we should count. But if you're one to count the fend for yourself days then think this even you aren't the perfect friend. So when next you want to think less of a friend because of the times they couldn't, remember a friend is only a friend because of the times they could.
Tuesday, February 5, 2013
Saturday, December 22, 2012
The worn and beaten box
The age old adage of being in a box has always struck me as something I don't want to ever do. Though lately I've been on a detail oriented search for a new look at all the things that surround me and make up my life- box.
When I was a kid I though, I love to travel, see new places, meet new people, and experience life. I had the hardest time wrapping my head around people who had never left the their part of town talk less their state. Then to help myself deal with this I concluded with the idea that if they all left then I wouldn't get to discover them and their ways in it's original form. Someone had to stay behind and keep things just the way they've always been. That gave birth to the idea of settling down in a place and calling it home and how that could be as amazing as seeing the world.
So now today I've found my self in this crush with old things that are re-purposed or being used with a newer modern look. I've always believed that, 'they don't make them the way they used to.' So this crush totally makes sense and that it's in fashion only supports what I and a lot of people have always believed- Old is not necessarily bad.
All this to say. Being in a box doesn't mean you are limited or unable to grow, it simply means you must be creative. Now remember that just like the space outside the box is limitless, so is the possibilities of what you can do inside or with the box.
When I was a kid I though, I love to travel, see new places, meet new people, and experience life. I had the hardest time wrapping my head around people who had never left the their part of town talk less their state. Then to help myself deal with this I concluded with the idea that if they all left then I wouldn't get to discover them and their ways in it's original form. Someone had to stay behind and keep things just the way they've always been. That gave birth to the idea of settling down in a place and calling it home and how that could be as amazing as seeing the world.
So now today I've found my self in this crush with old things that are re-purposed or being used with a newer modern look. I've always believed that, 'they don't make them the way they used to.' So this crush totally makes sense and that it's in fashion only supports what I and a lot of people have always believed- Old is not necessarily bad.
All this to say. Being in a box doesn't mean you are limited or unable to grow, it simply means you must be creative. Now remember that just like the space outside the box is limitless, so is the possibilities of what you can do inside or with the box.
Friday, December 21, 2012
What dreams May Come
'What Dreams May Come'. This is the title of my favorite movie. Why do I love this movie? I think the most moving thing about the movie is what it teaches about the important things in life. In life we dream and have wishes. I the movie 'Before the Rain' the main character fulfills his dreams to build a road but what ultimately becomes of him is in the end not as successful as the legacy of that road in which he will leave behind.
This year I learned that the difference between two identical or even total strangers is very simple no matter where in the world they are or how much money they have at their disposal. The difference and the one thing that can make or break any human being in any situation is your support system.
Who holds you up when you dream? Who is there when you fall? Who will help when you need it? Whose smiling at you just because?
This year I learned that the difference between two identical or even total strangers is very simple no matter where in the world they are or how much money they have at their disposal. The difference and the one thing that can make or break any human being in any situation is your support system.
Who holds you up when you dream? Who is there when you fall? Who will help when you need it? Whose smiling at you just because?
Friday, December 14, 2012
Life is fleeting life is short.
A woman in Chicago last month who was advocating strongly against gun violence, lost her son to the very same thing. What did she say in response to the senseless killing of her child.- 'They can't take away the 16yrs I got to have him.' That to me was the most powerful thing I'd ever heard.
Today I did something I typically don't do. I followed a heart wrenching news story instead of just turning the radio off or moving my mind elsewhere. I even let myself feel the pain of the tragedy.
The saddest fact in this world is that there is a tragedy every second of everyday. Just because it didn't make the news or wasn't a mass occurrence doesn't make it any less tragic. Though this by no means gives us the right to just become unmoved. Tragedy should be wake up calls, reminders, and opportunities to show love to one another. Opportunities to be reminded of just how important it is to care, to show the ones you still have that you care?
Today I did something I typically don't do. I followed a heart wrenching news story instead of just turning the radio off or moving my mind elsewhere. I even let myself feel the pain of the tragedy.
The saddest fact in this world is that there is a tragedy every second of everyday. Just because it didn't make the news or wasn't a mass occurrence doesn't make it any less tragic. Though this by no means gives us the right to just become unmoved. Tragedy should be wake up calls, reminders, and opportunities to show love to one another. Opportunities to be reminded of just how important it is to care, to show the ones you still have that you care?
Friday, November 30, 2012
Miss-take
To not take something the way it was intended to be taken is the essence of a mistake. Making a mistake is therefor not getting it right. That's the real problem, thinking that it was wrong, or just expecting that you will get things right 100% of the time. That would make us perfect. I know I'm wonderfully made but I think even God isn't expecting me to be perfect. So why am I or others expecting this of me. Our Great Expectations and Lofty Hopes for ourselves and others can only lead to disappointment. I'm not saying don't expect or hope but be willing to understand that forgiveness of yourself or others should not be something that is a rare occurrence. Much like a harvest moon is not the constant look of a full moon and requires conditions before it even happens. Life is give and take and this is not limited to others but it includes you. You have the right to make mistakes. It's a God given right or freedom which you should be enjoying. So when next you totally miss the mark think- 'Thank God I'm capable of making a mistake!'. When I started this piece I though oh I should write about how we should learn from our mistakes but then I realized we should first learn how to except that we can, should, will, and do make mistakes. Either all the time or from time to time we all will make several mistakes. So next time you do appreciate that you can.